So you’re convinced all is not well in Eden. You’re not sure you have the right to go through his personal mails, messages or his finances to look for conclusive evidence. You don’t know if you spy on your cheating spouse discreetly.
That thing called “conscience” is winning the battle. Whatever reasons your civilized self offers your mind, shut them out and do the needful.
You need to know if your spouse is cheating on you to protect your family from the emotional, mental and financial trauma affairs bring.
So quit guilt tripping and find a few quick ways to confirm the truth and start damage control.
Check Communication Devices
It is not a crime to go through your spouse’s gadgets and correspondence. Your spouse could be enjoying a fulfilling emotional relationship with an on-line buddy or even be having a passionate physical fling with someone – unless you probe you will never know the truth.
Check the cell phone, PDA, net book and computer. Look for images, hidden files, emails, messages, call records, stored media files, expense accounts and anything that tells you more about your partner’s activities.
Spying Softwares For all His Devices
If the step above reveals something suspicious, confirm or clarify your doubts using a spying software. Buy one on-line or download a trial version. These softwares work with computers, phones and other systems to maintain a log of all deleted phone/email messages and chats.
You can record his every keystrokes and password, take screen shots or gain complete control over your spouse’s PC and cell phone from a remote desktop. If he is is hiding something, you will find it.
Surveillance With GPS and Mileage Tracking
Now that you know your spouse is cheating – you need to collect enough physical evidence to face him. Using a GPS tracking device or even a simple cell phone with a few spying softwares installed, you can literally follow your spouse around town.
Arrange for timed or motion based recorded feeds from a cell phone or camera conveniently left on the backseat or follow your spouses’ car around on a mapping software to catch him in the act.
Old-School Spying As A Last Resort With PIs and Shadowing
If your spouse is lying and you know it- do things the old fashioned way. Check pockets, purses, desks, cupboards and other personal effects for contraceptives, stains, gifts and other knick-knacks. If he says he’s working this weekend, show up with a packed lunch to see if he’s really there.
If you feel incapable of such indiscretions, employ a private investigator to follow up on your behalf. Your lawyer will probably know someone good. Uncover your spouse’s excuses and face him/her with the truth.
Remember, when your spouse is faced with evidence of their unfaithfulness, they may react uncharacteristically. Be careful and weigh all your options before you react.
