How can you tell if your spouse or partner is cheating on you? Here are 10 signs of a cheating spouse you need to look out for:
1. Lifestyle Changes – Has your spouse developed a new hobby or obsession? A sudden mid-life change might be just that – a much needed mid-life change, but accompanied by a few other things, it could be symbolic of other things.
2. Physical Changes – Has he suddenly joined a gym, or become more fashion conscious? Is your wife’s makeover making you uncomfotable? An affair is an unethical, but surefire way to boost self esteem, and can do miracles to an individuals’ overall self worth and appearance.
3. Quality time – Are team-building exercises, overtime, extra practice, car-pooling and child-care genuine excuses to justify your lack of time together? The sudden distance can be a sinister symptom.
4. New Privacy Issues – Does your spouse turn away to take calls or maintain a separate bank account? A sudden need for space and privacy is a sign of inability to communicate and possible deception.
5. Altered Spending Patterns – Affairs don’t come cheap. Unaccountable credit card spendings for theaters shows, hotel rooms, dinners and other nice things may mean your spouse is out having a good time without you.
6. Evasiveness – Can he explain his sudden disappearances, delays, frequently unavailable cellphones, and unheard of appointments to your satisfaction? If he is unable to vouch for his time, you may have cause for worry.
7. Defensiveness – The cheater is constantly on the alert to conceal the truth and therefore may react defensively. This can translate into uncalled for aggression, insults or anger at the smallest suspicions.
8. Mood Swings – Cheating requires skillful time management and manipulation. The cheater may suffer mood swings, from euphoria at a successful conquest, to depression from guilt or the threat of being discovered.
9. Sex Life – Depending on the cheater’s nature, your sex life may go cold or might just get red hot. It might get kinkier or it might abruptly sizzle out.
10. Distracted and Distant – Does he seem preoccupied, distracted and is he behaving in ways you’d never have imagined? Is this the same person you exchanged vows with or do you no longer recognize your spouse?
You’ve read the list, now think back carefully, objectively and unemotionally about your spouses’ behavior. Can you identify their behavior with these ten most common signs of cheating?
While the signs themselves are not conclusive of your other half having an affair, it does provide some valid reasons to be suspicious of them cheating on you.
